Affirmations can be a powerful and helpful tool to prepare for and during birth. They can keep you feeling positive, motivated, and resilient, especially during moments of uncertainty. I use them often with both my doula and COACHING clients.
If using affirmations feels like it could be useful for you, I have some helpful guidelines that can make the difference in choosing what affirmations feel like the right fit and will be the most supportive during your birth journey.
Use Affirmations that Set You Up for Success No Matter Your Birth Outcome:
Many of the birth affirmations I see are beautiful and inspiring but set women up to feel like they have failed if they need to get an epidural or require a cesarean delivery. I talk to my clients often about the difference between open affirmations and closed affirmations.
Open affirmations help you to be open to all possibilities and to feel strong even if you have to say yes to something you hoped would never occur during your birth.
Closed affirmations focus on a specific type of birth or birth outcome. These can work well if your birth goes how you had envisioned or hoped. If your birth does not, these types of affirmations can leave women feeling hurt, that they did not try hard enough during their labour, or that they failed.
Look at the affirmation and ask yourself:
- Would this be helpful to hear if I had to have an unplanned cesarean delivery?
- Would this make me feel empowered if I had to have an epidural?
- Would this be helpful if I had to wait to get the epidural I requested?
Here are some examples of Open Affirmations:
- Birth is always amazing
- I can do anything for 60 seconds
- Breathe in strength, breathe out tension
- Breathing in I feel strong, Breathing out I let go
- I am safe, I am supported, I am loved
- I am excited to give birth to my baby
- I follow my instincts to birth the way my body and baby need
- I can do it
- I am strong and brave
- My courage and my love is strong
- This is hard work and I am doing it
- I am doing the best I can with what I know
Using my guidelines, find or create a few affirmations that resonate with you deeply. Using too many affirmations can cause you to feel confused so I recommend working only with five or less.
Write your affirmations on post-it notes and placing them in places where you are regularly can be helpful to read them often. I put affirmations on my bathroom mirror, my car dashboard, and above my kitchen sink.
I have had clients who also sing their affirmations or will dance while saying them to help bring their affirmation into all parts of their brain and subconscious.
Using Affirmations During Labour & Birth:
I have had several clients create prayer flags with their affirmations. This is an activity you can do on your own, or perhaps during a baby shower to connect with others to prepare for your birth. Buy some beautiful fabric (light colours and cotton is best) and cut it into squares of the same size. Decorate each square with fabric markers and your different affirmations. After each square is decorated, sew them to a piece of ribbon and hang it in your birthing area. Your partner or if you have older children may want to make a square as well.
When I was in labour with my last baby, I was inspired to keep going while looking at those beautiful messages and pictures. After my son was born, we hung the birth affirmation flag in his room and I would look at each square while nursing and feel the support of my family and community with me.
You can also create affirmation posters by decorating pretty sheets of paper (check out crafting stores) with your powerful words and then hang these up in different parts of your birthing area or hospital room.
Share your affirmations with your partner and any other supports who will be helping you in labour. They can say them with you or remind you to say them in moments of struggle or uncertainty.
Affirmations, when said repeatedly, can become a mantra that help you to focus on something other than the intensity of labour. They can also help you relax more during contractions, which can further increase the oxytocin your body is producing to help with your birth.
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